That’s what comedian Kate Clinton wrote when she autographed a photo for me a few years ago.
Be Bad really landed for me, as a good departure point – not from being “good” or “kind.” No, the departure point was from being “nice.” I spent way too many years living in ways that catered to others comfort and wishes at the expense of my own wants and needs. Maybe you can relate?
With the help of my coach, I learned that I often saw rules where there weren’t any. I unconsciously opted out of many things in life based on unquestioned assumptions I made, informed by rules that I made up or that others imposed that were unacceptable. Moments of clarity like that are powerful outcomes from working with a coach.
So, I took Kate’s admonition to heart. I made a commitment! If living life with dignity, integrity, personal power, speaking up, playing bigger, with joy and kindness is somehow bad, then okay – I choose to Be Bad.
If this resonates, I invite you to consider some coach-like questions for yourself:
- Where do you see rules that aren’t there?
- What would it feel like to come out of the “nice” closet and Be Bad?
- What might happen if you said “no” to one unreasonable request today?
- How will you know when you will be ready to make a change and Be Bad?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Perhaps we can explore coaching together? (Go on, Be Bad!)